Do you want to be invited?

In keeping with the wedding theme of this week my post today will be in regards to wedding invitations. As a proper lady (or at least I like to think of myself as classy) I did endless research on the etiquette behind the wedding invitation. Since this is the first glimpse into the wedding that guests will receive, I wanted to make sure it was done right. In my brief experience I have encountered some strange and unusual feedback on the subject which I will share with you. A few days after mailing the invitations I received a few emails and calls from excited guests complimenting the beauty of the invitation itself and expressing their excitement to attend. Mission accomplished! Thanks so my bridesmaids and mother (as well as my fiancé who had to tie the last remaining ribbons after the girls left because mine were appallingly bad). Then comes the strange part… I received comments of, “You didn’t need to send me an invitation.” And “[Groomsman] doesn’t need an invitation.” Now I ask you… Obviously the groomsmen are going to attend the wedding, but do they not deserve/need to be invited? Also, is it presumptuous to assume that the parents of the couple don’t need to be invited? Where do we draw the line? Would it get to the point where family would be insulted to receive an invitation because it means that they are not close enough to you that it was assumed that they would attend? I can’t help but wonder… why do we invite guests if they don’t want to be invited?